TITLE: MATCHMAKER ISSUES, QUESTIONS & QUESTIONNAIRE COPYRIGHT © JANUARY 14, 1996 All rights reserved. This file, in its entirety, may be posted on or copied off of computer networks like Internet or WWW by anyone so inclined. This is an ASCII text only copy of a Macintosh MicrosoftWord5 file made for non-Macintosh folks, so it is very plain and basic in its form (footnotes, indentation and page layout). The document is 6" wide and Palatino 12 plain font in the original. So when your text only version comes up with Palatino 14, just find Select All (under File) and change it to Geneva 10, Helvetica 12 or Palatino 12 . That will smooth out the paragraphs and lines, giving you a much more readable file. By Lee Tyler P.O. Box 620763, SanDiego, CA 92162-0763 (ruth#1 lee#2) = ruth1lee2@aol.com =weekends polyboy@delphi.com = Sunday afternoon thru Thurs evening DEAR SINGLE FRIEND, There is no need to be alone! If you do not want to be alone and you believe God does not want you to be alone, then you can do something about it besides sitting and waiting. If you have a phone, a pen, some spare coins and the desire to meet others, then all you have to do is be a Ruth and present yourself to the Boazes that are out there looking for you, or be an Issac and let these resources be your servants to bring you together with your Rebeckah. Jesus said the sparrows are provided for, but even the sparrows have to get out of their nests and get out into the world to find the food God has provided for them. Even so, you too will probably have to get out of your nest or rut and get out into the world to find, or be found by, the mate God has for you. The seekers are promised to find, so if you want to find you had better be seeking. Sexual harassment laws today make it almost impossible to initiate relationships at work, and even at some educational institutions. The resources below are specifically designed for professionals and adults who want to meet like minded people.The helps below are offered to help you get out of your nest and find your provision from God. >>>I. Agencies that serve Christian singles. p.2 >>>II. Secular Agencies. p.4 >>>III.SOME SCRIPTURAL GUIDELINES p.5 >>>IV. THE SINGLES' QUESTIONNAIRE Part 1 p.10 >>>THE SINGLES' QUESTIONNAIRE Part 2 p.22 >>>FOOTNOTES & REFERENCES P. 29 >>>I. Agencies that serve Christian singles. A. I don't know if this one is still operating. I would write and ask first. It is so interdenominational that even Catholics use this one. It is interracial and cross cultural serving the Christian community. I know this one personally and know a number of people who say they are very happy with the people they met. Don't list your phone number unless you are prepared for numerous calls and are prepared to run the risk of getting unwanted nut calls. Don't list your phone number if your address is in the phone book because you donŐt want any nut cases knocking on your door. Let the agency screen most of the inquiries. No fees, donations only, free brochure/samples ---write OUTREACH, Box 9020-F53, Van Nuys, CA 91409 or dial 800-323-8113 ext. #F53. I suggest that you send at least $5 to cover their printing and mailing costs, after you have receive each printout. B. My friends recommend this one highly by experience: Christian Singles Profile Exchange, 800 So. Pacific Coast Hwy. Ste. 8348, Redondo Beach 90277 or call (310) 372 3779 C. Black-Interracial Singles (Christian), Rose of Sharon Christian Club, P.O.Box 681642, Franklin Tennessee 37068- 1642 D. Christian Singles Exchange. For free information write or call PO. Box 1042-SM, Oregon City, OR 97045 or 1- 800-841-5964. E. Christian Singles News- Box 100SP, Harrison OH 45030 F. Christian Singles - Free information on hundreds of profiles and your profile is published free-- call 1-800- 763-5683 ext. 400 or 404. [525-5784]. G. Equally Yoked: (619) 563-1853; 1-800-870-LOVE (870-5683), serving Southern California. H. Quality Christian Singles, CSC, Box 4037, Carlsbad, CA 92018; 619- 433- 2292 I. Living Choices, 5694 Mission Center Road, #137, San Diego, 92108 or call (619) 285-8707. J. ŇOver 50Ó "Christian Singles", 575-1241 or 443-5661 K. Christian Singles Connection, PO. Box 4037, Carlsbad, CA 92008; 619-433- 2292) L. Christian Singles-Living Choices, Exclusively Christian Singles Profile Publication. Send for current edition, P.O.Box 880383, San Diego, CA 92168; 1-800- 995-1912. M. Christian Singles Network: 4193 University Ave. #5682, San Diego CA 92165-5682, or Call for free info (714) 647-7775. N. Contact Christian, PO. Box 3212, Costa Mesa, Ca 92628 (714) 434-6929 O. Christian Roommate Connection, 433-2128 P. Singles Spectacular Events, free Calendar (714)778- 0244 Q. Christian Events, (619) 563-1853 R. Healthy Choices. Christian Singles Introductions. Free Ad & Voice Mail. For free information: Call 619) 285-8707. Send $10 for a current issue or write 5694 Mission Center. Rd. Suite # 137, San Diego, CA 92108. S. Christian Singles Event Line (714) 375-0400 for free brochure T. Contact Christian (Never Married/Widowed); free publication; POBox 3212, Costa Mesa, CA 92628; 1-800- 550-7335; U. Christian Friendship Connection: Free info.: 1-800- 488-4690; Free add and free responses: 1-800-374-9827 V. Volleyball: Foothill Singles under 50, volleyball at 7pm Tuesdays: 4031 Avocado Blvd. , La Mesa 670-4009 W. Over 50 Christian Singles: Candy 575-1241 or 443- 5661 X. Support group for the separated, divorced or widowed at St. Mary Magdalene, call 276-1041 Y. Confidential Christian Introductions: (714) 375-0400 >>>II. Secular Agencies. This is the riskier and more hazardous route. God makes it very clear in His Word#1 (see the footnotes) that He, as our Heavenly Father, instructs us not to Ňgo withÓ, become engaged to, or marry anyone who is not a believer who is obeying the Word of God. D. (Black) ŇUnlimited PossibilitiesÓ Details $3 S/H: Unlimited Possibilities, 7436 SW 117th Ave. #179, Miami, FLA. 33183 H. Computers: I. COMPUTERMATE, P.O.Box 1683, Hollywood, CA 90078-1683 or ` call 1-800-423-9199 L. DATELINE, 4193 University Ave #5682, San Diego, CA 92165-5682, 3 to 20 introductions over 3 months for $??, as seen in the Reader. R. Great Expectations; The most effective secular singles agency that has the best reputation for computer screening and matching to your own social and spiritual criteria is expensive but has definite quality results: Great Expectations; 3465 Camino Del Rio South, Suite 300; San Diego, 92108-9635 or call 1-800-432-9200, 283-6400 or fax to 283-6513. U. MUSIC LOVERS: 1.Phone 1-800-92MATCH V. NATURE LOVERS: PO. Box 188, Youngstown, NY 14174 X. OVER 39: 1. The Group, P.O.Box 18, La Mesa 91944, 286- 7072 EE. Reader Phone Matches, PO. Box 85803, San Diego, 92186; Fax:233- 7907 or phone 235-8200 ext. 268 II. SCIENCE LOVERS: PO. Box 188, Youngstown, NY 14174 JJ. SCRABBLE: Sandee 463-4513 KK. SOULMATES CENTER, all races welcome, 619-584- 5902 PP. TALL SINGLES: Men 6'2"+, Women 5' 10"+, Box 81144, San Diego 92138, call 693-TALL. QQ. Singles Only Travel Club, L. Martin P.O.Box 954, Carlsbad 92018, 619-434-1171; >>>SOME SCRIPTURAL GUIDELINES 1. God makes it very clear in His Word#1 (last page) that He, as our Heavenly Father, instructs us not to Ňgo withÓ, become engaged to, or marry anyone who is not a believer who is obeying the Word of God. Being the Loving Father our God is, and the all wise King that Jesus is, God instructs#2 us for our own well being that an obedient believer should not Ňgo withÓ, become engaged to, or marry any ŇbelieverÓ who is disobeying GodŐs instructions, or any ŇbelieverÓ who believes or teaches things that contradict or are in conflict with GodŐs teachings in the Bible. Yes, that really narrows the way for finding a godly mate and drastically reduces the number of eligible people but those who have been down the road can tell you that it is better to marry right than wrong, and that it is better not to marry than to marry wrong. It just makes the miracle of GodŐs provision even more miraculous, like Elijah pouring all that water over the sacrifice to be burned before God sent the consuming fire from Heaven. You have to have Faith in God to walk with God. You have to really trust Him before you can turn your hopes and dreams over to Him for His decision. 2. If you have no need of marital affectionate/sexual intimacy, a gift from God, you have the wonderful opportunity to serve God with fewer "distractions", to spend much more time with Him in the Word and prayer, and with others in ministry. David Hocking's book on singles beautifully explains 1 Corinthians 7:1,7,,20,25-35 and the great opportunity the single life presents to those who want more fully to seek and follow God with their whole heart. Singles groups for such people are fellowship opportunities, and provide the opportunity to bond with friends and minister to the Body of Christ. 3. If your calling and gift is to marry, how do you seek and find that partner? First of all you have to have your priorities right because marriage can become an idol just like anything else on earth can. You have to make very sure that Matthew 6:33,34; Proverbs 3:1-8; Psalms 37:1-6; and 2 Timothy 2 are daily very real or else even our prayers are in vain (1 John 3:22,23 and 1 John 5:14,15). Next we have to come to the place of Luke 22:42 and Romans 6:4,11, 12,13--- -the place of death to self and resurrection to Love which seeks not its own way/things---SO THAT WE ARE READY TO ACCEPT WHOEVER HE GIVES TO US, EVEN IF HIS CHOICE SEEMS TO FALL FAR SHORT OF OUR DREAMS AND FANTASIES. With our "seed" dead in the ground, He can raise us to a new life of marriage in His will. You literally have to die to your wants and tastes in physical appearance, personality, color hair or eyes, height, talents, income, status etc. and be ready to accept whoever He gives to you and you will have doubt-free peace of heart and mind if you are ready and accepting the one He gives to you. Your only concern should be that your prospective mate meets God's requirements in the Bible for a godly, Spirit-led and Spirit- filled man/woman. Jesus said, ŇSeek and you shall find.Ó Seeking one's mate can be as active a process as Ruth's and Queen Esther's or it can be as privately surprising as Adam's awakening to Eve for the first time. You can count on God to lead you according to His word (Proverbs 3:5,6; Romans 8:14). You can trust Him to put His ideas/desires in your heart/mind and the opportunities to act on them (Philippians 2:13; Hebrews 13:20,21). Like Adam, you can wake up to her in your life in His time. Like Isaac, a parent figure can help you find God's choice for you. You can just be going about your daily activities like Rebekah and, in a moment of compassionate assistance to a stranger, you can find your mate. Like Ruth, you can commit yourself to God's service, make a Godly decision to step out of one situation and into another and in that new situation be led and advised to do what seems like an ordinary work day decision but which results in your meeting your mate quite unexpectedly. Following wise and Godly counsel of Godly counselors like Ruth, you might be led to offer yourself as wife to a Godly man who obviously cares for and admires you but for some reason feels unworthy to ask you to be his wife. Like David meeting Abigail, you could just be going about your daily walk in the Lord, meet a godly woman you admire and respect but who seems unavailable just to quite unexpectedly find that she is both available and ready to marry you. Like Abigail, you could find yourself in a trying and difficult situation with no relief in sight, but by living wisely and Godly in that situation impress and build a relationship with the one you will eventually marry. With todayŐs laws about sexual harassment, any wise male will think long and hard before he compliments a female on her female beauty or appearance, long and hard before he will let her know he likes her and is interested in getting to know her personally, long and hard before he will ask or suggest that they go out on a date. Because of the sexual harassment laws the only way a woman might know a man is interested in her is by what his eyes show, and it is now virtually up to the woman to tell the man that if he is interested, she would like to get to know him better and get together to talk. This is very hard for a woman because of the chance of misreading his eyes and being rejected and embarrassed. ThatŐs why women more than ever need singlesŐ and couplesŐ agencies and the KEY described in the next paragraph. THE KEY IS IN GENESIS 24:27. Being in His way, doing His things, saying His Words He leads you to the where and the who of your future. It may even seem like blind faith but it has to be absolute trust in His working all things together according to the counsel of His own will (Ephes. 1:11; Phil. 4:6,7) free of worry, anxiety and fretting, with a soul at rest and in peace knowing that your Shepherd-King will take care of the need for you in His time with the person of His choice, not necessarily of your choice. YOU MUST TRUST HIM TO USE HIS WORD AND THE TRUTH OF ROMANS 14:22,23 WITH PHILIPPIANS 4:6,7 to guide you. He can bring scriptures to mind to guide and direct you. But the final test is the Spirit's gift of doubt-free peace of heart and mind. Move and rest in that peace. Consider every doubt and uneasiness of spirit to be God's Romans 14 and Phil. 4 signal to you that you shouldn't do the thing in question because either it is the wrong thing and you don't realize it yet, or it is the right thing but you shouldn't do it yet. So you don't say it or do it until your consciousness is filled with His doubt-free peace and rest of spirit about it/him/her. 4. What does the Bible say about sexual morality? JESUS AND THE APOSTLES TOOK THE SAME OLD TESTAMENT HEBREW AND GREEK WORDS (SEPTUAGINT) FOR IMMORALITY/FORNICATION AND USED THEM IN THE NEW TESTAMENT WITHOUT CHANGING THEIR MEANINGS. HE DID CHANGE THEIR PENALTIES/PUNISHMENTS IN THIS LIFE ON EARTH. Matt. 5:17 ¦ Think not that I am come to make void the law or the prophets; I am not come to make void, but to fulfill. 18 For verily I say unto you, Until the heaven and the earth pass away, one iota or one tittle shall in no wise pass from the law till all come to pass. 19 Whosoever then shall do away with one of these least commandments, and shall teach men so, shall be called least in the kingdom of the heavens; but whosoever shall practice and teach [them], *he* shall be called great in the kingdom of the heavens. Matt. 23: 1 ¦ Then Jesus spoke to the crowds and to his disciples, 2 saying, The scribes and the Pharisees have set themselves down in Moses' seat: 3 all things therefore, whatever they may tell you, do and keep. But do not after their works, for they say and do not, PREMARITAL SEX AND PREMARITAL PETTING IS FORNICATION. BREAST AND GENITAL INTIMACY ARE APPROPRIATE ONLY WITH YOUR OWN MATE IN YOUR OWN MARRIAGE. Ezekiel 23:2 Son of man, there were two women, daughters of one mother. 3 And they did sexual sin in Egypt; they did sexual sin in their youth: there were their breasts pressed, and there were handled the nipples of their virginity. 8 Neither left she her sexual sin [brought] from Egypt; for in her youth they had lain with her, and had handled the breasts of her virginity, and poured their fornication upon her. 21 And you did look back to the lewdness of your youth, in the handling of your nipples by the Egyptians, for the breasts of your youth. Proverbs 5:18 Let your fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of your youth. 19 [Let her be as] the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy you at all times; and be ravished [enraptured/intoxicated] always with her [erotic] love. 20 And why will you, my son, be ravished [enraptured/intoxicated] with some other woman, and embrace the bosom of an alien stranger? 21 For the ways of man [are] before the eyes of the LORD, and he ponders all his goings. 22 His own iniquities shall take the wicked himself, and he shall be held with the cords of his sins. SEXUAL INTIMACY OUTSIDE OF/WITHOUT MARRIAGE IS UNACCEPTABLE TO GOD AND ETERNAL LIFE. Exodus 22:16 ¦ And if a man seduce a virgin who is not covenanted-to- marry, and lie [sexually] with her, he shall certainly endow her to be his wife. 17 If her father utterly refuse to give her unto him [as wife], he shall weigh money according to the dowry of virgins. Deut. 22:25 But if a man find a covenanted-to-marry young woman in the field, and the man force her, and lie [sexually] with her; then the man only that lay [sexually] with her shall die: 26 But unto the young woman you shall do nothing; [there is] in the young woman no sin [worthy] of death; for as when a man rises against his neighbor, and slays him, even so [is] this matter: 27 For he found her in the field, [and] the covenanted-to-marry young woman cried, and [there was] no one to save her. 28 If a man find a young woman [who is] a virgin, who is not covenanted-to-marry, and lay hold on her, and lie [sexually] with her and they be found; 29 Then the man who lay [sexually] with her shall give unto the young woman's father fifty [shekels] of silver, and she shall be his wife; because he humbled her, he may not put her away all his days. PROVERBS 5, 6, &7 on premarital extramarital sex. Lev. 18:20 And you shall not lie sexually with your neighbour's wife, to become unclean with her. 1 Corinthians 6:9 ¦ Do you not know that unrighteous [persons] shall not inherit [the] kingdom of God? Do not err: neither fornicators [those who have sexual intimacy either outside of their own marriage or without being married], nor idolaters, nor adulterers [those who have sexual intimacy either with someone elseŐs mate or without a godly marriage], ...shall inherit [the] kingdom of God. 1 Corinth. 6:13 ... the body [is] not for sexual sin, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. 15 Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then, taking the members of the Christ, make [them] members of a female who does sexual sin? Far be the thought. 16 Do you not know that he [that is] joined to the female who does sexual sin is one body? for the two, he says, shall be one flesh. 17 But he that [is] joined to the Lord is one Spirit. 18 Flee sexual sin. Every sin which a man may practice is without the body, but he that commits sexual sin, sins against his own body. .... 1 Corinthians 7:1 Now concerning the things about which you wrote to me, [it is] good for a man not to be touching a woman. 2. Nevertheless, [to avoid] sex sin every man is to be having his own woman and every woman is to be having her own man.....8.I say therefore, to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide [unmarried] even as I. But if they do not abstain [from touching/having one], they are [commanded] to marry. For it is better to marry than to burn [passionately]......36. But if anyone think that he behaves himself improperly toward his virgin, if she has become marriageable, and so it must be, he is [commanded] to do what he wishes; he does not sin; they are [commanded] to marry. 37. Nevertheless he who stands steadfast in his heart, having no necessity, but has power over his own will, and so has determined in his heart that he will keep [as is] his virgin, does well. [See 1 Thessalonians 4:1-8.] 1 Timothy 5:11 But refuse [to enroll] younger widows; for when they have sensuous impulses contrary to Christ, they wish to marry.... 14. Therefore I desire that younger [widows] marry, bear children, manage the house, give no occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully. [The difference between the old testament commands to marry (see above) and the New Testament commands to marry is that in the Old Testament God tells one who He commands one to marry, and in the New Testament He just commands one to marry and leaves it up to the one to find out who to marry by Phil. 4:6 & Romans 8:14] >>>THE SINGLES' QUESTIONNAIRE I have prepared this screening questionnaire to be used to screen contacts or to use as a get acquainted tool before the first date to be discussed and compared on the first date. No one should date a complete stranger without using some well prepared screening device. These arenŐt the good old days. If you have any questions or comments about my screening questionnaire, please contact me at: L. Tyler, P.O.Box 620763, San Diego, CA 92162-0763 Test/Examine/Scrutinize Everything! That includes the people you meet and become involved with. Hold Fast/Tightly That Which is Good! After you have found that the person has God and His goodness filling that personŐs life, HANG ON TO THAT PERSON! 1 Thess. 5:21 He who finds a godly mate, finds a good thing! It is good to be zealous about good things. Whatever you find to do, do with all your might as unto the Lord. Seek and you shall find. SO DO IT! BUT DO IT BEFORE YOUR HEART IS HOOKED ON A FEELING! DO IT BEFORE YOU START SEEING EACH OTHER REGULARLY OR MAKING COMMITMENTS. AT LEAST MAKE SURE BOTH OF YOU HAVE DONE THE FOLLOWING COMPATIBILITY QUESTIONNAIRE (ALONE BY YOURSELVES), AND HAVE HAD A DATE WHERE YOU CAME TOGETHER TO DISCUSS THE COMPLETED QUESTIONAIRE BEFORE THE LADY GIVES HIM HER HOME ADDRESS, WHICH MEANS YOU HE DOESN'T PICK HER UP AT HOME UNTIL THEN. DO THE QUESTIONNAIRE SEPARATELY, EXCHANGE THEM AND GO OVER EACH OTHERŐS SEPARATELY AND THEN COME TOGETHER OR PHONE TO DISCUSS THE PROBLEMS, PLEASANT SURPRISES ETC. THAT YOUŐVE DISCOVERED. THE MATCHMAKER QUESTIONNAIRE PART I - The Spiritual Dimension and Priorities ****************************************************** #1. Jesus Christ is my Lord, Master, Shepherd, Director and King in and over all of my ways and doings. The proof that I am born again and know Him is my obedience to His Word, teachings and commandments.>3 (see footnotes) #1 Yes___ No___ #2. I trust the Lord with all my heart, not myself or my own understanding.>4 (See footnotes) #2 No__Yes__ #3. I agree, confess, admit and acknowledge that the things which Paul the Apostle wrote in the Bible are the commandments and teachings of the Lord Jesus Christ.>5 #3 Yes___ No___ #4. I agree, admit and confess that the Holy Spirit impregnated the virgin Mary so that her "flesh and blood" Child, the Lord Jesus Christ-God in the flesh, is in deed the very and only begotten Son of the God of Abraham, Issac and Israel.>6 #4No__Yes__ #5. I believe that all Old and New Testament Scriptures are given by inspiration of God, holy men of God speaking and writing as moved/worked by the Holy Spirit of God so that the words and ideas are commandments.> 7 #5 Yes___ No___ #6. I believe that the Lord Jesus Christ, born in Bethlehem, Judea, and crucified/ killed on Golgotha/Calvary, will return to earth in His "flesh and bone" body as He promised.>8 #6 No__Yes__ #7. I believe that Jesus Christ created everything in, on and around the earth, including Lucifer/Satan and angels.>17 #7 Yes___ No___ #8. I believe that before Jesus Christ was born in Bethlehem Judea, God had NO flesh, blood and bone body, had no wife and had no sexual relations. I believe that when Jesus Christ was walking on the earth before He let them crucify Him, He never had a wife and had no sexual relations.>18 #8 No__Yes__ #9. I accepted/received Jesus Christ as my own personal Lord, Master and Savior in the following manner: ________________________________________________ ________________________________________________ ________________________________________________ ________________________________________________ If you need more space, please use the back of this page or another sheet. #10. The "born again Christian" husband should be sensitive and submissive to his wife humbly in the fearful reverence of our Holy God, by laying down his life/soul/being for her by nourishing and cherishing her compassionately, by dwelling with her wisely with godly understanding, by giving her honor and respect whether or not she deserves it, and by serving her as a shepherd-teacher-exemplar in the Word of God.>19 #10 No__Yes__ #11. The "born again Christian" wife should let her own husband be the leader in the marriage in everything as is fit in the Lord (with hers being the choice whether or not to follow his lead according to 1 Thess 5:21 and with him having no right to make her obey him), giving him loving affection and respect (whether or not he deserves it).>20 #11Yes __No __ #12. The "born again Christian" wife should not teach her husband what to do and she shouldn't have or exercise authority over (bossing, commanding, intimidating, running, controlling, manipulating) him.>21 #12 No__Yes__ #13. I believe one should sexually lay [genital connection/interaction] only with one's own marital partner.>22 #13 Yes___ No___ #14. In a godly marriage I believe the married couplesŐ genitalia can be "instruments of righteousness" for the blessing, rejoicing, loving, satisfaction, enrapturing, and ecstasy of sexual marital intimacy. I believe that sexual/genital nakedness and pleasuring with a partner should take place only in marriage and with one's own marital partner.>23 #14 No__Yes__ #15. I believe that breast/bosom pressing, embracing & caressing in sexual pleasure belongs only in male+female marriage with one's own marital partner.>24 #15 Yes_ No_ #16. I believe that if a single believer in Christ fails to consistently and regularly exercise self-control sexually (i.e. failing to abstain consistently from premarital and/or extramarital breast &/or genital intimacy with another), that believer should marry a godly mate because it is better to marry than to be burning with sexual desire or failing to control one's own sexual desire.>25 #16 No__Yes__ #17. My belief is: (1) I am not sure I believe in God. (2) I believe that Jesus is Michael the Archangel of God. (3) I believe that Jesus is Lucifer's brother by one of God's wives. (4) I believe that Jesus is a reincarnation of Krishna or Shiva. (5) I believe that Jesus is a spirit and never came to earth to die in a human body. (6) I believe that Jesus left his body in the grave and is with us and will be with us only in spirit to show us the way. (7) I believe in God but I am not sure about Christ being God. (8) I believe that Christ is God, the only begotten Son of God but I'm not sure that I have received Christ as my personal King and Savior. (9) I am sure that I have received Jesus as King and Savior into my own life/soul/ being and I know that His Holy Spirit lives and works in me. (10) In addition to #9, I am filled with the Spirit and His fruits and I am actively trying to expand Christ's kingdom by telling others the good news about Jesus. #18. I prefer that my date's belief be (1), (2), (3), (4), (5), (6), (7), (8), (9), (10) of the above. #19. I attend church: (1) Once a year (2) once a month (3) About twice a month (4) Weekly (5)More #20. I prefer that my ideal date attend church at least (1), (2), (3), (4), (5) of the above. #21. The name of my church is__________________________________ and its address is ________________________________________________ #22. My pastor name and phone number is ________________________ ________________________________________________ His wife's name is ______________________________________ #23. The names of two church officials you may contact as my references are__________________________________ Phone # __________________________________ Phone #___________________________________ #24. I attend Bible discussion and/or prayer groups: (1) Never (2) Rarely (3) Occasionally (4) Monthly (5) Weekly #25. I prefer that my ideal date attend such groups at least (1), (2), (3), (4), (5) of the above. #26. I have a private quiet time of prayer, Bible study and personal devotions: (1) Never (2) Rarely (3) Occasionally (4) Often each week (5) Usually daily #27. I prefer that my ideal date have such a private quiet time at least: (1), (2), (3), (4), (5) of the above. #28. I lead Bible studies and/or teach the Bible to others: (1) Never (2)Rarely (3) Occasionally (4) Often each month (5) Weekly #29. I prefer that my Ideal date lead such studies or teach at least (1), (2), (3), (4), (5) of the above. #30. With regard to making a vocation of Christian service, I would: (1) Not consider it (2) Not prefer it (3) Be open to it (4) Prefer it (5) Definitely plan on it #31. I prefer that my ideal date at least (1), (2), (3), (4), (5) of the above. #32. Theologically I am: (1) Very liberal (2) Liberal (3) Conservative & Evangelical (4) Conservative, fundamental and evangelical #33. Theologically I prefer that my ideal date be (1), (2), (3), (4) of the above. #34. I witness about salvation in Jesus Christ: (1) Never (2) Rarely (3) Occasionally (4) Often (5) Usually once a week or more #35. I prefer that my ideal date witness about Jesus (1), (2), (3), (4), (5) of the above. #36. The church I attend is: (1) Baptist (2) Catholic (3) Christian, Church of Christ, Congregational (4) Episcopal (5) Lutheran (6) Methodist (7) Pentecostal, Assembly of God, Church of God, Foursquare (8) Presbyterian (9) Interdenominational, Bible Church, Evangelical Free (10) or________________________ #37. My ideal date would attend _____________________________ of the above. I would consider dating someone who attended _______________________of the above. Part II- The Physical Aspects ****************************************************** 1. My nationality or ethnic heritage is _____________ 2. My age is _____________ 3. My ideal date's minimum age may be: _____ 4. My ideal date's maximum age may be _____ 5. I hope my date's age would be _____ 6. My height is _______________ 7. My ideal date's minimum height may be _____ 8. My ideal date's maximum height may be _____ 9. I hope my date's height would be ______ 10. My weight is ________________ 11. My ideal date's minimum weight may be ________ (very thin, slender, average or ______________) 12. My ideal date's maximum weight may be ________ (average, slightly overweight, stocky, very overweight, or _________________) 13. My race/nationality is ________________ 14. My ideal date's race may be _________________ but may not be ________________________________________________ 15. My ideal date's nationality may be ______________ but may not be _______________________________________________ 16. My education level (highest grade) is ___________________ 17. My ideal date's education level may range from _______________ to _________________. 18. Most people think of my physical appearance as: (1) Unattractive (2) Below Average (3) Average (4) Above average (5) Very attractive 19. Personal grooming and dress are: (1) Not at all important (2) Slightly important (3) Fairly important (4) Very important (5) Extremely important 20. My date's physical appearance is: (1) Of little importance (2) Fairly important (3) Quite important (4) Very important (5) Extremely important PART 111 THE SOCIAL FACTORS ******************************************************1. My marital status is: (1) Single (2) Widow/Widower (3) Divorced #of times_ (4) Separated 2. Would you be willing to date a person who is described as follows: A. Lost a mate to death? (1) Yes (2) No B. Abandoned and/or divorced by a mate who didnŐt obediently believe in Jesus Christ at the time of the abandonment/divorce? (1) Yes (2) No C. Has been abandoned and ordivorced by a professing Christian? (1) Yes (2) No D. Divorced &/or abandoned a professing Christian? (1) Yes (2) No E. Is separated but not divorced from a mate who doesnŐt obediently believe in Jesus Christ? (1) Yes (2) No F. Is separated but not divorced from a professing Christian? (1) Yes (2) No G. Is married if _____________________________? (1) Yes (2) No 3. I have one or more children dependent on or living with me. (1) Yes (2)No 4. My date may have one or _______ children. (1) Yes (2) No 5. I consider my childhood family cultured, sophisticated and refined: 1) Not at all (2) Somewhat (3) Average (4) Above average (5) Very much so. Personally I am __________________ 6. My father-figure and I have/had a very good relationship. (1) Yes (2) No Why? ________________________________________________ ________________________________________________ His phone # is:_________________________ 7. My mother-figure and I have/had a very good relationship. (1) Yes (2)No Why? ________________________________________________ ________________________________________________ Her phone # is:________________________ 8. When my parents made significant decisions: (1) My mother made all of them, (2) My mother made most of them, (3) They made them jointly in cooperation, (4) My father made most of them, (5) My father made all of them. Personally I believe _____________ should make ________ of the decisions. 9. When two people are dating regularly they should: (1) Have a good deal of personal freedom, (2) Frequently do things separately, (3) occasionally do things separately, (4) Do almost every social thing together, (5) Do every social thing together 10. In relations with people of the opposite sex, I prefer to be: (1) Dominant, (2) Moderately dominant, (3) Very cooperative, (4) Moderately submissive, (5) Submissive rarely insisting on having my own way. I prefer that my date be __________________ 11. With a person I have been dating frequently, I am: (1) Intimately affectionate, (2) Very warm and very affectionate but not intimate (just hugs and kisses and not sexual), (3) Usually affectionate (hugs and kisses and not sexual), (4) Moderately affectionate (safe hugs, closed lip kisses, not sexual), (5) Rarely affectionate (only holding hands and cheek kisses), (6) Not affectionate (no touching of skin). I PREFER THAT MY DATE BE _________________________________ 12. How emotionally involved without commitment do you wish to become with your dates? (1) Very involved, (2) Moderately involved, (3) Not involved at all 13. I am dating because: (1) I want to be married, (2) I like to have a lot of friends, (3) I want to have a couple of close friends, (4) I want a close friend, (5) I am lonely and donŐt like to be alone. 14. Spending time with relatives is: (1) Not at all important, (2) Slightly important, (3) Fairly important, (4) Very important, (5) Extremely imporant 15. In family financial affairs: (1) I tend to live beyond our income, (2) I tend to charge items on our accounts, (3) I live for the here and now and donŐt think about our future, (4) I save a little, (5) I save and invest for our future. 16. I give about _______% of my monthly pay to churches or charities like ________________________________________________ 17. I earn about $ ____________ net each month. I prefer that my date should earn at least $ ____________ net per month. 18. For the past five years I have worked as a ________________________________________________ 19. I currently work as a _______________________________________ 20. I believe that children are a God-given solemn trust, gift and opportunity to serve by training, teaching, nurturing, ÓdisciplingÓ, disciplining and admonishing in the Way and Word of God.26 Please cross out that with which you disagree. 21. I believe that I must obediently love God more than I love my children so that I can be objective in helping them learn to do GodŐs good instead of their own pleasure. >27 (See footnotes) Please cross out that with which you disagree. 22. I believe that God wants me to rebuke, teach, admonish, correct, discipline and warn my children when they do what God says, or I say, is wrong.>28 Please cross out that with which you disagree. 23. I understand that it is the will of God for my children to show respect to me, to talk respectfully to and about me, and that they are commanded by God to obey me as long as I donŐt cause them to disobey God. I realize that this is one of GodŐs basic rules for humanity and gravely serious consequences are ordained by God for children who donŐt obey Him in this matter.>29 (See footnotes) Please cross out that with which you disagree. 24. I believe that I am GodŐs ordained authority in charge of my children so I am to be in charge of my children and they are to obey me for GodŐs sake. If my children or I discount or ignore my authority, then I am discounting and ignoring God.>30 (See footnotes) Please cross out that with which you disagree. 25. I believe that, as the authority in charge of -- and to be obeyed by my children, I am not to be a tyrant or abusive dictator. As the servant of God I serve my children as their parent with patience, gentleness, kindness, longsuffering, unselfishness, optimism, sincerity and without wrath so that even when I have to spank/discipline/punish them for rebellion or evil I do it for their own good, not for their harm and not for my own personal pleasure/gratification.>30b Please cross out that with which you disagree. PART IV: THE PERSONALITY FACTORS ****************************************************** 1. Ordinarily, I am: (1) Emotional, (2) Slightly more emotional than rational, (3) Slightly more rational than emotional, (4) Very rational. I prefer that my date be ___________________ 2. My personality is that of: (1) An extrovert, (2) A moderate extrovert, (3) A moderate introvert, (4) An introvert. I prefer that my date have a personality of _________________ 3. I am: (1) Always very neat and organized, (2) Usually neat and organized, (3) sometimes neat and organized, (4) Rarely neat and organized but hire a housecleaner, (5) Not neat and organized but I know where almost everything is. I prefer that my date be__________________________ 4. I prefer to be: (1) Dominant, (2) Moderately dominant, (3) Very cooperative, (4) Moderately submissive, (5) Submissive rarely insisting on having my own way. I prefer that my date be ____ 5. Ordinarily I am: (1) Talkative, (2) Moderately talkative, (3) Moderately quiet, (4) Quiet. I prefer that my date should be ____________________ 6. Real love is best expressed to me, or I prefer to be loved by: (1) Acts of kindness and thoughtfulness, (2) Words and tone of voice, (3) Facial expressions, (4) Touch and feeling. 7. I express real love best by: (1) Acts of kindness and thoughtfulness, (2) Words and tone of voice, (3) Facial expressions, (4) Touch and feeling, (5) Other _______________________. 8. My basic attitude toward life is that it is: (1) Boring, (2) Dull, (3) Moderately interesting, (4) Interesting, (5) Exciting. 9. My favorite kinds of music are ________________________________________________ 10. My favorite TV shows are ________________________________________________ 11. My favorite movies are ________________________________________________ 12. I like radio stations that ________________________________________________ 13. In my personal financial affairs: (1) I tend to live beyond my income, (2) I tend to charge items, (3) I live for the here and now and donŐt think about the future, (4) I save a little, (5) I save and invest for the future. 14. When I go out for an evening, I would prefer to be: (1) Alone, (2) With one person, (3) Double dating, (4) In a small group, (5) In a large group. 15. Basically I consider myself: (1) A loner, (2) Retiring, (3) Quiet, (4) Gregarious- friendly-merry, (5) Very gregarious- friendly-merry. 16. Having a good sense of humor is to me: (1) Not at all important, (2) Slightly important, (3) Fairly important, (4) Very important (5) Extremely important 17. I would like to spend most of my life in a: (1) Ranch or farm community, (2) Small town, (3) Average size city, (4) Fairly large city, (5) Large metropolitan area, (6) In a suburb of a city. 18. My basic attitude about people is that they are usually: (1) Boring, (2) Dull, (3) Moderately interesting, (4) Interesting, (5) Exciting 19. It is important that my home be kept dusted, neat and clean: (1) All of the time, (2) Most of the time, (3) Some of the time (once a week), (4)Occasionally (once a month or for company) 20. I smoke ________________________________________________ I prefer that my date smoke _______________________________________________ 21. I drink alcoholic beverages ________________________________________________ I prefer that my date drink ________________________________________________ 22. I use legal prescription drugs like ______________________________________________ 23. In my opinion, illegal drugs like marijuana, cocaine, Heroin, etc. are ________________________________________________ 24. Politically, I am: (1) Very conservative and and feel I don't have to obey laws I disagree with, (2) Very conservative and very law abiding, (3) Conservative and usually law abiding, (4) Moderate and can compromise, (4) Liberal and want some laws changed and disobey others, (5) Very liberal and I feel I don't have to obey laws I disagree with. Politically my date may be __________________________________________ 25. My highest level of academic attainment is: (1) Attending high school, (2) High School diploma, (3) Attended (attending) vocational trade school, (4) Attended (attending) college, (5) College bachelor degree, (6) MasterŐs degree or above. I prefer that my dateŐs minimum level of academic attainment should be______________ 26. I would estimate my IQ to be: (1) Lower than average but okay, (2) Average, (3) Above average, (4) Well above average, (5) Genius or gifted. I prefer that my dateŐs IQ should be at least #______ or High_______Moderate________Average_______Low______ 27. Please rate the following items 1 through 5 as follows: (1) Not at all interested, (2) Slightly interested, (3) Fairly interested, (4) Very interested, (5) Extremely interested. The items are as follows: Art ____, Attend athletic events ____, Ballets and operas ___, Bible studies and prayer meetings ___, Bowling ____, Bridge ____, Camping ____, Card games ____, Chess ____, Church services ____, Church specials ____, Popular dancing ____, Fishing ____, Golf ____, Happy hours ____, Hunting with camera ____, Hunting with weapons _, Movie theaters ____, Music (singing/playing) ____, Parties ____, Photography ____, Picnics ____, Ping pong ____, Plays or musicals ____, Political activity ____, Sailing ____, Scuba diving ____, Skating _____, Snow skiing ____, Sports cars ____, Square/folk dancing ____, Sunbathing _____, Support groups _____, Swimming _____, Tennis _____, Racquet ball ____, Badminton _____, Travel-foreign _____, Travel- USA ____, Visiting friends ____, Volleyball ____, Watching TV ____, Watching videos ____, Water skiing ____, The following: ________________________________________________ ________________________________________________ 28. We haven't touched on this yet but what I tell you in the following is very important to me and I hope it is important to you too. Please tell me how you feel about it. If you need more space, please use the back of this page or attach another sheet >>>THE SINGLES' QUESTIONNAIRE Part 2 WHEN YOU HAVE HAD Several DATES and ARE THINKING OR TALKING ABOUT GETTING SERIOUS, MAKING COMMITMENTS, BECOMING ENGAGED, OR PREPARING TO COMMIT FOR MARRIAGE, DO THESE SEPARATELY, EXCHANGE AND COMPARE THEM SEPARATELY, THEN make a date to DISCUSS WHAT YOU HAVE LEARNED ABOUT EACH OTHER. 1. I believe marital/sexual intimacy with your own marital partner is honorable, undefiled, good, wonderful, delightful, pleasant, desirable and God ordained.>footnote 31 Yes ______ No ______ 2. I believe that a married male+female couple should be sexually/genitally intimate and active with each other in order to avoid sexual immorality.>footnote 32 No ______ Yes _____ 3. I believe that a male and female married to each other should be sexually/genitally affectionate with each other whenever one wants or needs it.>footnote 33 Yes ______ No ______ 4. I believe that the wife has sexual authority over her husband's body and that the husband has sexual authority over her body and such authority is to be submitted to just as to any other Romans 13 authority set up by God. This sexual authority is to be exercised humbly, meekly and gently in unselfish, compassionately cherishing service to the other.>footnote 34 No _______Yes _______ 5. I believe that a married male+female couple should sexually deprive/ deny each other only for fasting and prayer if they both agree to it and then only for a mutually acceptable time.>footnote35 Yes _____ No _______ 6. I believe that it is God's best for a born again Christian wife to not dessert/divorce/ leave her born again Christian husband, but if she sins and does, she should remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband since she is bound by God to him as wife as long as he lives.>footnote 36 Yes ____ No _____ 7. I believe a born again Christian husband is not to divorce/send away/ask to leave his born again Christian wife because she is bound by God to him as wife as long as he lives.>footnote 37 No ____ Yes ______ 8. I believe a born again Christian mate should not associate/keep company with his/her "born again" Christian" mate if that mate claims to be a "born again Christian" and lives in sexual immorality, covetousness, idolatry, verbal abuse of others, drunkenness, drug addiction, extortion, open disobedience to clear and explicit commands/teachings of the Word of God. >footnote 38 Yes ___ No __ 9. I believe a married believer should not leave/divorce/send away his/her "unsaved" spouse as long as that unsaved spouse actually lives or wants to continue living/dwelling with him/her.>footnote 39 Yes ___ No ___ 10. I believe that if the "unsaved" spouse does not want to live/dwell with the believer and leaves (departs, divorces, separates, etc.) the believer, that believer is not morally bound (under bondage, subject, held by necessity) in such cases and is free to seek a "born again Christian" mate>footnote 40 No ___ Yes __ 11. For the past five years I have worked as a_________________________ at (companyŐs name & location) _________________________________ 12. I currently work as a ______________________________________ at (companyŐs name & location) _________________________________ for _____ years and ____ months, and my supervisorŐs name and title is ________________________________________________ 13. My resume and work references for the last six years are attached/enclosed. IF THE LORD LEADS YOU, PLEASE COMPLETE THE NEXT STEP, ŇARE WE READY FOR MARRIAGEÓ, BEFORE YOU BECOME ENGAGED OR MAKE YOUR MARITAL COMMITMENT OR BECOME MARITALLY INTIMATE. IF YOU WANT THE NEXT STEP, PLEASE CONTACT R. TYLER AT PO. BOX 620763, SAN DIEGO, CA 92162-0763 PLEASE DONŐT SEND/GIVE THE "ARE WE READY FOR MARRIAGE" TO A POTENTIAL/ PROSPECTIVE DATE. THE QUESTIONNAIRE LETS YOU REALLY GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER IN A VERY SHORT TIME AND ALLOWS YOU TO DO DEAL WITH POTENTIAL PROBLEMS/CONFLICTS VERY EARLY IN A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP. REMEMBER YOU SHOULD BE PREPARED TO ACCEPT THE PERSON THE WAY HE/SHE IS WHEN YOU MEET WITH THE HOPE THAT A REASONABLE PERSON WOULD MAKE MINOR/ MODEST COMPROMISES. ANY PLAN ON YOUR OR HIS/HER PART TO MAKE OR EXPECT MAJOR CHANGES IN THE OTHER PERSON IS NOT REALISTIC AND PAVES THE WAY FOR HEARTBREAK LATER. REMEMBER THE ROMANS 14 DOUBT PRINCIPLE: WHEN IN DOUBT, DONŐT!!!!!! SAVE YOUR HEART! WHEN THE DOUBTS ARE COMPLETELY GONE AND YOU HAVE PEACE OF MIND AND HEART ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT TO DO, YOUŐVE PRAYED ASKING AND TRUSTING HIM FOR HIS SHEPHERDING/ GUIDANCE, YOU MEET THE BIBLE'S REQUIREMENTS FOR ANSWERED PRAYER41 , AND YOU ARE AWARE OF NOTHING IN THE BIBLE THAT SAYS YOU SHOULDNŐT DO IT, DO IT!!! FOOD FOR THOUGHT ABOUT COURTSHIP BEHAVIOR PUBLIC NUDITY (BLACKŐS BEACH, PORNOGRAPHY ETC.) IS NOT ACCEPTABLE TO GOD OR FOR A GODLY WOMAN. Ezekiel 16:7 I caused you to multiply, as the bud of the field; and you did increase and grow great, and you came to fullness of beauty; [your] breasts were fashioned, and your hair grew: but you were naked and bare. 8 And I passed by you, and looked upon you, and behold, you time was the time of love; and I spread my skirt over you, and covered your nakedness; and I swore unto you, and entered into a covenant with you, said the Lord Jehovah, and you became mine. Ezekiel 16:25 You did build your high place at every head of the way, and made your beauty to be abhorred, and you did open wide your feet [offering yourself] to every one that passed by, and multiply your sexual immorality.. 36 Thus says the Lord GOD; Because your filthiness was poured out, and your genitalia were seen through your sexual immorality with your lovers, and with all the idols of your abominations....; 37 Behold, therefore I will gather all your lovers, with whom you have taken pleasure, and all [them] that you have loved, with all [them] that you have hated; I will even gather them round about against you, and will show your genitalia unto them, that they may see all your genitalia. Compare Genesis 3:7, 10,11, 21 SEXUAL INTIMACY WITH SOMEONE ELSE BESIDES YOUR MATE BY MEANS OF PORNOGRAPHIC OBJECTS IS SEXUAL SIN. Ezekiel 16:17 And you did take your fair jewels of my gold and of my silver, which I had given you, and made to yourself images of males, and did sexual sin with them. PAYING IN ANY WAY SOMEONE WHO IS NOT YOUR MARITAL PARTNER TO BE SEXUALLY INTIMATE WITH YOU IS SEXUAL SIN. Ezekiel 16:33 They give rewards to all harlots; but you gave your rewards to all your lovers, and rewarded them, that they might come unto you on every side for your sexual immorality. 34 And in you is the contrary from [other] women, in your sexual immorality, in that none follows you to commit fornication; and whereas you give a reward, and no reward is given unto you, so are you contrary. [Note! So a harlot is also a female who does sexual sin for free or who pays for it, for a feelling or for a service, for advantage or for a favor..] HOMOSEXUALITY, LESBIANISM, SODOMY, SEX WITH ANIMALS AND OTHER PERVERSIONS ARE UNACCEPTABLE TO GOD AND EXCLUDES THEIR SUPPORTERS FROM HEAVEN. Lev. 18:6 ¦ None of you shall approach to any that is near of kin to him, to uncover [their] genitalia: I [am] the LORD. Lev. 18:22 And you shall not lie [sexually] with male persons as one lies [sexually] with a female person: it is an abomination. Lev. 20:13 And if a man lie [sexually] with mankind, as he lies [sexually] with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall certainly be put to death; their blood is upon them. Exodus 22:19 --Every one who lies [sexually] with a beast shall certainly be put to death. Lev. 18:23 And you shall lie [sexually] with no beast to become unclean it; and a woman shall not stand before a beast to mate with it: it is perversion. Lev. 20:15 And if a man lie [sexually] with a beast for copulation, he shall certainly be put to death, and you shall kill the beast.16 And if a woman approach unto any beast to mate with it, you shalt kill the woman and the beast. They shall certainly be put to death; their blood is upon them. Lev. 18:26 But you shall observe my statutes and my judgments, and shall not commit any of all these abominations: the home-born, and the stranger who sojourns among you; 27 (for all these abominations have the men of the land done, who were before you, and the land has been made unclean); 28 that the land vomit you not out, when you make it unclean, as it vomited out the nation that was before you. 29 For whoever commits any of these abominations, ...the souls that commit them shall be cut off from among their people. Romans 1:24 Wherefore God gave them up [also] in the lusts of their hearts to uncleanness, to dishonour their bodies between themselves: 25 who changed the truth of God into falsehood, and honoured and served the creature more than him who had created [it], who is blessed for ever. Amen. 26 For this reason God gave them up to vile lusts; for both their females exchanged the natural use for what is against nature; 27 and in the same way the males also, leaving the natural use of the female, were inflamed in their lust towards one another; males with males working [out what is sexually] shameful, and receiving in themselves the penalty of their error which was due. 1 Corinthians 6:9 ¦ Do ye not know that unrighteous [persons] shall not inherit [the] kingdom of God? Do not err: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor males who make women [catamite homosexuals] of themselves, nor [male homosexuals/ pederasts] who abuse themselves [sodomize] with male persons, 10 ......shall inherit [the] kingdom of God. 1 Tim.1:8 Now we know that the law [is] good if any one uses it lawfully, 9 knowing this, that law has not its application to a righteous person, but to [the] lawless and insubordinate, to [the] impious and sinful, to [the] unholy and profane, to smiters of fathers and smiters of mothers; to murderers,10 fornicators, [male homosexual] sodomites, kidnappers, liars, perjurers; and if any other thing is opposed to sound teaching, 11 according to the glad tidings of the glory of the blessed God, with which *I* have been entrusted. [See Jude 7 also.] Normally women seek marital relationships because they want loving companionship with sexual cherishing and men seek marital relationships because they need sexual cherishing with loving companionship. Either way marital relationships involve sex. God in the Bible makes it crystal clear what sexual intimacy is (see above), that it includes breast and genital petting/ caressing as well as genital intercourse/coitus/penetration; and the sinful perversions of lesbianism, homosexuality, sodomy, pederasty etc.. God in the Bible makes it crystal clear that sexual intimacy is to be expressed only in marriage with your marital partner in the way He tells us in the Bible ( 1 Corinth. 7; 1 Thess. 4; 1 Timothy 1:9.10; Hebrews 13 etc.). God also makes it very clear that any obedient believer who is not successfully controlling one's self in the Spirit by abstaining from sexual intimacy until married comes under God's command to marry an obedient believer in the Lord (1 Corinthians 7:1,2,9,17,36,37,39; and 1 Thessalonians 4:1-8; 1 Timothy 5:11-15). According to Proverbs chapter 5 and chapter 31 and the Song of Solomon in the Bible, it is quite evident that for those led by God or by hormonal need- sexual intimacy should be ecstatic, orgasmic, fulfilling, fun, playful and a wonderful opportunity to bring thrilling joy into the life of your marital partner. God says our bodies are instruments (Romans 6), and you should become an artist in the playing of yourself and your mate as instruments in harmony. >>>>FOOTNOTES & REFERENCES P. 29 Please donŐt give/send this page to a potential date since it is the answer key and a deceptive date could tell you what you want to hear instead of what is real for the date. You could use it later to discuss differences or problems. #1 2 Corinthians 6:11-7:1; 1 Corinthians 15:33; James 4:4; Exodus 34:12; 23:33; 1 Kings 11:1,2; Ezra 9:11,12; Nehemiah 10:25-30;Psalms 1:1; 26:4,5; Prov. 12:26;13:20; 14:7; 24:1; Amos 3:3. #1 2 Corinthians 6:11-7:1; 1 Corinthians 15:33; James 4:4; Exodus 34:12; 23:33; 1 Kings 11:1,2; Ezra 9:11,12; Nehemiah 10:25-30;Psalms 1:1; 26:4,5; Prov. 12:26;13:20; 14:7; 24:1; Amos 3:3. #2 1 Corinthians 5:9-11; 2 Thessalonians 3:6-14; Ephesians 5:7,11; NKJV 1 Timothy6:3-5; Romans 16:17; 3 John 10,11; 2 Timothy 3:1-5 3 Hebrews 5:8,9; 1 John 2:1-5; Revelations 20; Psalms 23; John 14:15,21 4 Prov. 3:5,6; I Corinth. 12:3; Prov. 16:24; Hebrews 11 5 1 Corinth. 14:37; 1 Thess. 4:8; 2 Peter 3:15, 16 6 1 John 4:2; Matthew 1; John 1; Luke 2 7 2 Tim. 3:16,17; 2 Peter 1:20,21; 1 John 2:3-5 8 2 John 7-11; Luke 24; Acts 1 17 Coloss. 1; John 1. 18 Matthew 22:28-32; Galatians 3:26,27,28; John 4; 1 John 3:2; 19 Ephes. 5:21-33; 1 Peter 3:7; 5:1-5. 1 Corinth 13. 20. Ephes. 5:22,23,24,33; Colos. 3:18- 4:1; 1 Peter 3:1-6; Titus 2:4; 1 Thess. 5:21; Hebrews 13:7,17. 21 1 Peter 3:1; 1 Timothy 2:11-15; 1 Corinth. 14:34-37. 22 Ezekiel 23:8,17,18,20; 1 Corinth 5 & 6 & 718 Matthew 22:28-32; Galatians 3:26,27,28; John 4; 1 John 3:2; 23 Ezekiel 16:15, 25, 31-37; 1 Corinth. 5 & 6 & 7; Proverbs 5:18-20 with Roman 6:13. 24 Ezek. 23:3,8,21; Prov.5:19,20; 1Corinth. 6:13-19 25 1 Corinth. 7:9,7,28,36; 1 Thess. 4:3-8; Prov. 5:19,20. 26 Psalm 127:3,4,5; Psalm 113:9; Psalm 128:2,3; Ephesians 6:1-4; Proverbs 1:8,9; 4:1-27; 15:5,20; 22:6; 30:17; 1 Peter 1:12,13; 1 Thessalonians 2:11; 1 Samuel 2:12-3:14 27 Matthew 10:34,39 28 See note 3 and Galatians 6:1, Ephesians 5:7,11; Matthew 18:15-18; 2 Timothy 2:24-26. Hebrews 12:3-11 29 Ephesians 6:2; 2 Tim. 3:2; 1 Tim. 5:5; Matt. 15:4; Exodus 21:17; Leviticus 19:3; Deuteronomy 27:6,16; Proverbs 23:22; 28:24; Isaiah 3:5; Ezekiel 22:7 30 Ephesians 6:1,2,3; Romans 13:1-13 30b Luke 22:25,26,27,28; 1 Corinthians 13; 2 Timothy 2:24- 26; 1 Peter 5:1-5; Hebrews 12:3-11 31 Hebrews 13:4; Proverbs 5:15-21; 30:18,19; Song of Solomon 32 1 Corinth. 7:1,2,3,4,5; Proverbs 5 33 1 Corinth. 7:3,4,5; Proverbs 5 34 Luke 22:25,26,27 and 1 Peter 5:1-5. 1 Corinth 7:3,4,5 35 1 Corinth. 7:1,2,5; 1 John 3:16,17. 36 1 Corinth.7:10,11,39; Romans 7:2; Luke16:18. 37 First Corinth. 7:11; Ephes. 4:31, 32; 1 Peter3:7; Hosea 2; Malachi 3. 38 Matthew 18:16-18; 1 Corinth. 5; 2 Tim. 3; 1 Tim. 1:9-11; 6:1-5; 2 Thess. 3:6-14. 39 1 Corinth.7:13-16 40 1 Corinth.7:12-39. 41 1JOHN 3:22,23,24; 1 JOHN 5:3,14,15 The following files are available as described below. Please request any that seem interesting or of use to you. 1. Husband rule over the wife? Which cave did you crawl out of? 2. Informal marriage, common law marriage, what makes a wedding? 3.Interracial,interethnic marriage and relationships in JESUS 4. JESUS, IS HE GOD, JEHOVAH, THE SON OF GOD, THE SON OF MAN, THE ONLY WAY TO GOD? 5. Oaths, formal swearings, solemn promises, covenants and JESUS 6. The power for good of feminine beauty and male handsomeness. 7. Racisim, ethnocentrism, nationalism vs JESUS 8. Underage burning--the financially dependent who are not successfully controlling themselves sexually 9. Unequal yoke???Do i look like a farmer?? So why shouldn't I marry this unbelieving/unsaved person, or this person who claims to be saved but has a sin problem???? 10. Why the Christian Woman Has Only One Husband. 11. When do i have to marry, in JESUS, and with whom? 12. Angels and you today 13. Biblical Morality, Porn, Sex etc. 14. The Black Family Crisis, and the Plight of the Black Female. 15. The Tithe and the Christian 16. A Manual of Marital Intimacy for My Daughters 17. Why Do The Innocent Suffer? 18. Divorce/Abandonment, How Can a Follower of Christ Survive It? 19. Keeping One's Word. 20. Quotes on polygyny 21.Divorce,remarriage, concubines, jesus and genuine believers 22. Polygynous Christians and Christian concubines 23. Why Would the Christian Woman Share Her Husband? 1. HUSBAND RULE OVER THE WIFE? WHICH CAVE DID YOU CRAWL OUT OF? This ascii text file addresses the issues of communication between man and woman, their roles in Jesus, their need to understand how very different they are and how very different their needs are, the husbands need to really listen to his wife before he leads out, the wife's critical need to realize that a marriage is primarily a sexual relationship with a man who needs her for the fulfillment of his sexual needs-usually more often than she wants to meet them---- etc.----and how a man can lead and follow his star with a wife following at his side with bated breath. [Available by email or by ftp as an appendix of a larger file ] 2. INFORMAL MARRIAGE, COMMON LAW MARRIAGE, WHAT MAKES A WEDDING? This file deals with such questions as the following: 1. What makes a marriage/wedding? 2. What makes a marriage/wedding acceptable to God? 3. Can you legally be married to someone and the marriage be against the laws of God? 4. What about common law marriage? 5. What about California's Pal relationships and Palimony? 6. What about California's Man-Assuming-The-Role-0f- Spouse (MARS) relationships in Welfare households? [Available by URL or ftp in /pub/politics/polyamory as "commonlaw", or by email. See below] 3.INTERRACIAL,INTERETHNIC MARRIAGE AND RELATIONSHIPS IN JESUS This is an indepth Bible study dealing with the questions surrounding racism, prejudice, bias, discrimination, favoritism, bigotry etc from the historical and spiritual perspective and thier denunciation as seen in James 2:1-14; 1 Tim. 5:20,21; Acts 10-15; Gen. 16:3; 41:45; and Num. 12:1- 10. Interracial/interethnic marriage have been with us since the beginning of human existence and have been the subject of Divine involement from Moses' marriage with the Ethiopian Cushite to Solomon's black-as-a-crow Shulamite wife to Phillip and the Ethiopian Eunuch and Peter with the non-Jew Centurion. God makes it clear over 6000 years of recorded history that race and ethnicity have no place signicantly influencing human interpersonal relationships. [Available by URL or ftp in /pub/politics/polyamory as "interracial=ethnic marriage", or by email. See below] 4. JESUS, IS HE GOD, JEHOVAH, THE SON OF GOD, THE SON OF MAN, THE ONLY WAY TO GOD? A Bible study collection of scriptures that address this issue and the issue of the trinity. [Available only by emial] 5. OATHS, FORMAL SWEARINGS, SOLEMN PROMISES, COVENANTS AND JESUS This is an indepth Bible study dealing with the questions surrounding oaths, sworn statements, solemn/legal promises, solemn vows etc who believe Psa. 15:4 and Eccles. 5:1-5 but also want to believe and obey Mat. 5:33-37 (swear not all) and James 4:13-17 with James 5:12 (do not swear). [Available by email, or ftp as an appendix of a larger file] 6. THE POWER FOR GOOD OF FEMININE BEAUTY AND MALE HANDSOMENESS. Feminine beauty and male handsomeness are gifts from our Creator. We are stewards of this socially significant gifts. We are accountable to God and our fellow believers for how we use these powerful and influential tools. We need the wisdom of God to use them well. A file. [Available by URL or ftp in /pub/politics/polyamory as "feml.power", or by email. See below] 7. RACISIM, ETHNOCENTRISM, NATIONALISM VS JESUS This is an indepth Bible study dealing with the questions surrounding racism, prejudice, bias, discrimination, favoritism, bigotry etc from the historical and spiritual perspective seen in James 2:1-14; 1 Tim. 5:20,21; Acts 10-15; Gen. 16:3; 41:45; and Num. 12:1-10. Please let me know if you want me to send it to you by Email or by US PO mail and give me the correct address. Please let me know what you think scripturally of the material. [Available by URL or ftp in /pub/politics/polyamory as "racism.nationalism", or by email. See below] 8. UNDERAGE BURNING--THE FINANCIALLY DEPENDENT WHO ARE NOT SUCCESSFULLY CONTROLLING THEMSELVES SEXUALLY 1. What do I do if I am underage, too young to marry and a financially dependent youth and I keep on blowing it sexually, letting Jesus and myself down by not consistently controlling myself sexually? 2.When do I know I don't have the gift of celibacy? 3.When do I know that I am not sexually controlling myself? 4.Where does pornography come in here? 5. When do I have to marry, according to the Word of God? 6. What makes a marriage/wedding? 7. What makes a marriage/wedding acceptable to God? 8. Can you legally be married to someone and the marriage be against the laws of God? 9. What about common law marriage? [Available only by email] 9. UNEQUAL YOKE???DO I LOOK LIKE A FARMER?? SO WHY SHOULDN'T I MARRY THIS UNBELIEVING/UNSAVE PERSON, OR THIS PERSON WHO CLAIMS TO BE SAVED BUT HAS A SIN PROBLEM???? This is a careful and thoughtful study of the principles involved in 2 Corinthian 6:14-7:1 and 1 Corinthians 5:9-14. Read it. Act on it and save yourself and your loved ones some grief. [Available by email or by ftp as an appendix of a large file} 10. Why the Christian Woman Has Only One Husband. If men practice polygyny, why shouldn't women practice polyandry? You find women having more than one male as mate from Beverly Hills, to modern college neighborhoods, to the jungles of South America. The woman at the well had five husbands. On the other hand, Eve had Adam, not Adam + Sam + Pete + Benhadad etc. A file for your consideration. [Available by URL or ftp in /pub/politics/polyamory as "polyandry", or by email. See below] 11. WHEN DO I HAVE TO MARRY, IN JESUS, AND WITH WHOM? 1.When do I know I don't have the gift of celibacy? 2.When do I know that I am not sexually controlling myself? 3.Where does pornography come in here? 4. When do I have to marry, according to the Word of God? 5. What makes a marriage/wedding? 6. What makes a marriage/wedding acceptable to God? 7. Can you legally be married to someone and the marriage be against the laws of God? 8. What about common law marriage? 9. What about California's Pal relationships and Palimony? [Available by URL or ftp in /pub/politics/polyamory as "when=how.to.marry", or by email. See below] 12. Angels and You Today Some thoughts on how angels have been involved with we humans, the historical origin of the god-man heroes of Greece and Rome. [Available by email only] 13. Biblical Morality, Porn, Sex etc. 118k Some scriptures that deal with these issues directly. [Available by URL or ftp in /pub/politics/polyamory as "poly.morality.porn", or by email. See below] 14. The Black Family Crisis, and the Plight of the Black Female. The crisis, what it means to Black Americans and an option that can help some Christians save their children and their families. [Available by URL or ftp in /pub/politics/polyamory as "blk.fam.poly", or by email. See below] 15. The Tithe and the Christian Should we, and why? An indepth Bible study. [Available by email only] 16. A Manual of Marital Intimacy for My Daughters Want to help me put together this Manual for my college age daughters as an engagement present? [Available by email only] 17. Why Do The Godly Suffer? Does it pay to be "good"? Why do the "good" suffer so much, so often? [Available by email only] 18. Divorce/Abandonment, How Can a Follower of Christ Survive It? You love Jesus, but your mate doesn't even love you. Now you find yourself divorced or abandonned but you want to be married happily in the Lord, what can you do? Positive, assertive, loving, godly and decisive things you can to once again be married happily in the Lord. [Available by URL or ftp in /pub/politics/polyamory as "poly.and.divorce", or by email. See below] 19. Keeping one's word. A study of the scriptures dealing with breaking one's vows, promises, covenants, oaths etc. and what God says about those who do not keep their word. [Available by email only] 20. Quotes on polygyny A collection of quotes from Biblical scholars and saints (St. Augustine etc) on the nature and status of polygyny and concubines. [Available by URL or ftp in /pub/politics/polyamory as "poly.in.Bible", or by email. See below] 21.DIVORCE,REMARRIAGE, CONCUBINES, JESUS AND GENUINE BELIEVERS This file deals with the following: (1) Are genuine Christians who are married to each other bound maritally until death parts them? (2) Can a genuine Christian married couple separate, in the Lord? (3) Can a genuine Christian who is divorced by a genuine Christian remarry some other genuine Christian, in the Lord? (4) Is there a double standard, one for the genuine Christian husband and one for the genuine Christian wife? (5) Can a genuine Christian husband reconcile with his genuine Christian wife after she had divorced him and remarried someone else? Should he? Should she? (6) What does "maritally bound until death do us part" mean for genuine Christians involved in divorce and remarriage? (7) Is a genuine Christian living in adultery with his new mate if he legally divorced his genuine Christian wife to marry his new mate? (8) Can divorce and remarriage among Christians result in Christian polygyny and Christian concubines? In America? This is a 470k ASCII text only without linebreaks file that is also available in 12 parts if your computer cannot receive large files. [Available by URL or ftp in /pub/politics/essays as "divorce.remarriage. concubines", or by email. See below] 22. POLYGYNOUS CHRISTIANS AND CHRITIAN CONCUBINES This is a file for (1) Christian concubines and for Christians with more than one wife who feel ostracized and isolated from the Christian community because of their controversial marital status; (2) Those who don't realize that concubines and polygynists are acceptable to the Lord Jesus Christ in their marital status when they conduct themselves according the Word of God in their controversial marital status; and (3) Concrete and specific principles, applications and concepts that can be useful to the Christian polygynist/concubine to achieve happiness and success in their relationship. This is an 240k ASCII text only without linebreaks file that is also available in six parts if your computer cannot receive large files. [Available by URL or ftp in /pub/politics/polyamory as "poly.and.Christianity" and "polygamy. polygyny.concubines" , or by email. See below] 23. Why Would the Christian Woman Share Her Husband? Some thoughts about the conditions or situations that might lead her to share her husband with another woman in a marital relationship, a concubine, in today's western and occidental world.[Available by URL or ftp in /pub/politics/polyamory as "poly.western.woman", or by email. See below] If you want any of these files, request it from (ruth #1 lee #2) = ruth1lee2@aol.com=Friday pm-Sunday pm or polyboy@delphi.com=Monday-Thursday (PLEASE ALWAYS "cc" a copy to polyboy@delphi.com---my step- daughter messes with my aol.com email :-( ) or get the older/smaller 480K master file (#1) at: URL: http://www.etext.org Location #1:/pub/Politics/Essays/ Location #2: /pub/politics/polyamory or ftp: "gopher.etext.org" Name: "ftp" Password: your email address Location #1:/pub/Politics/Essays/ Location #2: /pub/politics/polyamory If you have any problems with the URL or the ftp, contact ftp@etext.org or Rita@etext.org. or L. Tyler, P.O.Box 620763, San Diego, CA 92162-0763